Getting started in therapy

Getting started, making that push, moving forward. Sure they sound optimistic and we like how powerful it sounds. Gosh it sounds amazing to think about turning a new leaf or even starting fresh. The reality is most of us are tired. Tired of the overstimulation of the world. Tired of how we feel. Tired. 

We may even struggle with the stigmas behind seeing a mental health professional or therapist. Only people with “problems” do that. We say we “should” have it together. We “should” be fine. Maybe we don’t think our issues are that “bad”. First world problems. Maybe we have a lot of things going for us but we still have a feeling of unrest, or we sabotage ourselves, or need support.

We cannot “should” on ourselves, societal standards are arbitrary at best. The world is always evolving as are social expectations and norms. Which is cool but also frustrating when you want to keep up with the Jones’ and it’s all made up. Have you seen the filters on your apps? We also need to realize our perspectives are valid and sometimes we need to fine tune our reality. Change our thinking. Maybe the reason we feel unrest is because we try to keep up with idealized versions of people and it is all fake. Maybe the reason why we are struggling is because we numb ourselves instead of dealing with past trauma or anxiety. Maybe the reason why is a symptom of our red flag to heal. That’s ok. 

So it is up to us to see the value in ourselves and choose to take care of ourselves. Whatever that may look like. Sometimes it is just starting the conversation of, “Hey, this is difficult for me.” Sometimes it is just asking the question of, “Hey, what might this look like?” What do you have to really lose? Time? How much have you scrolled through your phone and felt no better? Funds? How many things have you purchased with no feeling of reward or genuine fulfillment? Is this what you choose to do with your life? We want better for you if there is no peace there. You do not have to do this alone and you won’t if you let people who can help you help. 

So, we start. Maybe it will just be, “I’m tired,” and that will be enough. It is ok to do enough sometimes.

All the best.
9/26/2021